We have a lot of friends but love happens only with a few of them. But, all these relationships also start with friendship. We get introduced by common friends or get in touch by coincidence/luck. We kinda like each other so start meeting more often and become friends. Then comes the big step wherein we become more than friends. However, the feeling needs to be mutual wherein both of us want to take it to the next level.
What happens, sometimes, is that – one of us friend-zones us meaning that (s)he takes us as a good friend but doesn’t want to get into a relationship. Being Friend-zoned is one of the worst feelings as you would have seen in mvies such as “Kuch Kuch Hota Hai”.
Here, we bring to you some of the top ways of getting friend-zoned. You need to avoid these at all costs –
1. You don’t make your intentions clear
You might get friend-zoned just because you never indicated your intention. You were, therefore, taken as a normal friend as your potential partner does not even know that you love him/her. All your communication needs to be geared towards making your intentions amply clear.
Being direct doesn’t mean you have to say, ‘I want you to be my girlfriend,’ all at once, or all the time But instead of saying ‘You’re welcome to come over,’ say, ‘I’d love it if you came over.’”
2. Let her vent about other guys
It is not your job to listen to her issues with her boyfriends – there are a number of other friends whom she can discuss these issues with. The more you listen to these travails – more friend-zoned you become. You even risk being friend-zoned for life.
Life is not like “Harry Met Sally” wherein she would one day come to know that all her boyfriends are idiots and you are the Prince Charming. Don’t take such a big risk in your life.
3. Try too hard to get her
Don’t try too hard to get into a relationship with her. You can do small gestures like buying her thought-out gifts or an elaborate surprise on her/his birthday. But if you try too hard, you might end up taken as “Chep” or a “Creep”. She will get intimidated and might even doubt your intentions.
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